There is no fixed definition for "normal" behavior. It varies by person, time, place and situation. Challenges may crop up for your family that therapists in The Cradle’s Center for Lifelong Adoption Support (CLAS) can help you work through.
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1) If I don’t answer your updates or texts, it may be because I don’t know what to say.
It is very common for adopted children to have biological siblings who are living with their birth parents. However, for some parents (adoptive and birth parents alike), talking to their children about siblings who don't live with them can seem tricky.
For adoptive and birth parents alike, the more people who are around to love and watch a child grow, the better. That’s why open adoptions can be so beneficial.
After an open adoption placement, both adoptive and birth parents may be eager to develop their relationship, but aren’t sure where to start. Not all open adoptions are the same—and that’s OK. Here’s three things you might expect in an open adoption relationship.
After an open adoption placement, both adoptive and birth parents may be eager to develop their relationship, but aren’t sure where to start. Not all open adoptions are the same—and that’s OK. Here’s five things you might expect in an open adoption relationship.
We often hear from birthparents concerned about a lack of communication with the adoptive family. Often times they are concerned because they are not receiving updates from their child’s family as often as they used to. Occasionally, a significant amount of time has gone by since the last communication.
Cradle Adoption Therapist Judy Stigger, LCSW, likes to think of birth families as in-laws for adoptive families and vice-versa. In-law relationships can be complicated; in order for openness to go well, those complications need to be addressed.
Openness takes time to develop. Like an in-law relationship, it requires ongoing fine-tuning and can be complicated. Because the adoptive parents are raising the child, responsibility for encouraging openness falls to them first.